The Liberated lifestyle has seen a massive upsurge in the millenium as more and more adults decide to relax their inhibitions and explore their sexuality.
However, as with all social experiences, there are some definite DO’s and DON’Ts. A little common courtesy goes a long way in helping smooth, what can be, at times, (especially for beginners) a slightly awkward experience.

People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn’t mean you should be a jerk and disrespect others, it means you should “let your hair down.” Whether or not you are interested in playing with someone, please remember to always be polite. You may have other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction. In swinging, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people over time and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate.

This lifestyle can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You are not always going to find people that share the exact same views that you do, always try to be aware of other people’s comfort levels, especially your own partner. In a group or party situation, a friendly “hello” can work wonders to ease someone’s discomfort, and if you find that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren’t mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated. When meeting a potential swing partner one-on-one (or two-on-two, or two-on-one as the case may be) the same applies: be polite, even if you don’t think there’s any potential for intimacy, you could still have a great time anyway. keep an open mind.

If you really want to bring what could be an intimate evening to an abrupt halt, then!! DON’T SHOWER or BRUSH YOUR TEETH! Nothing is more of a turn-off than body odour and offensive breath. In many ways swinging is just like dating, you still have to make yourself presentable, even more so if you know the evening will involve sexual intimacy. It is always a good idea to carry a small accessory case with you, containing: a mouth-wash, breath-mints, deodorant, condoms (if you prefer) and perfume/cologne. A small kit, can easily be fitted in your car’s glove-compartment for quick, easy access.

Please remember!! “No” means “No”. Anyone has the right to refuse your advances as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don’t expect or ask for any explanation, in this lifestyle an initial “No” will seldom change to “yes” no matter how much persuasion, please don't pester. If there’s someone that you are attracted to, let them know in a friendly manner but please accept their response, what ever it may be. If they change their mind, they’ll let you know.

Practicing safe sex, is of course, a person’s choice. Anyone’s decision to use condoms should be accepted and you are far better off presuming that all
will practice safe sex. Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If someone’s willing to be intimate with
you, you owe them the simple courtesy of respecting their comfort level.

Make the effort to socialize and approach people politely, don't just stand around waiting. There is nothing worse than everyone loitering with intent!! We are all out to party and have fun, please help to create a relaxed friendly atmosphere. People that do stand around as if they are waiting for a bus, are nearly always tagged as unapproachable and insecure. Please Socialize

DO let others know what your likes and dislikes are in the beginning, so as
to prevent any complications later and DO respect others limits and wishes, after all, we are, apparently, liberated adults, so DON’T be shy be OPEN.

NEVER!! Let anyone pressure you into situations you are not comfortable with, NEVER go along with something just for the sake of it, or for someone else’s benefit, not even your partners, if it is not for you, DON’T DO IT. We
all play for our own sexuality, only DO what YOU want to DO and what is gratifying for yourself. It is far better to not start, than to have complications after or during a situation, you did not want to happen. Honesty may hurt sometimes but in the long term it will always be the BEST OPTION.

Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on as well
as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a good sense of humour.